Are you someone who’s read every divorce article online and still feel overwhelmed, upset and unable to get your life moving in the right direction?
I get it! It’s frustrating to search for help only to remain stuck, especially when what you really want is to get your life going again.
You want to find your center with the belief that you’ll get through this difficult time.
You want a peaceful home for everyone (especially your children), supportive relationships, and to be given some dignity and respect.
You want to create the kind of life you know can be yours, even when you’re feeling fragile.
You want to regroup before stepping out into the world feeling confidence instead of fear.
But more than anything you want the fight in the past so that you can move on with your future.
Having gone through 3 divorces - once as a child, once as a young adult, and once as a mom after 15 years of marriage - I know this for sure:
If this sounds like the story of your heartache, you’re in the right place.
I was once right there with you.
I remember this pain, it’s often the before story of practically every divorcé I work with.
As a married and divorced young adult, and married and divorced mother myself, I get it, I honestly do. I know that…
you’ve spent years trying to keep your family together and believe in your heart that there’s more to life than struggle.
you’ve done whatever it took to keep them happy with you, in bed whether you wanted sex or not (usually not but you did it anyway).
you’ve done whatever it took to keep them happy in your home with the kids, whether you enjoyed cooking or worked a full-time job, and whether or not they wanted kids to begin with.
You've done it all!
But living in fear and overwhelm is tough, it keeps us stuck in sadness, hostility, and being a victim.
No wonder you’re feeling a bit lost and confused. There is a better way!
I’m Laura and I know a whole lot about divorce. I was 7 when my parents divorced and 23 when my first marriage ended. Then in my 40’s, I separated from my children’s father. So I’ve spent many years trying to understand and heal from this experience.
Going from being married to being happily single again isn’t easy, despite the number of couples going through divorce and whether or not you were the one who wanted out of your marriage. The truth is there are days it sucks, hurts, and seems incredibly unfair. But, it’s totally doable and you can do it too!
I’ve done it all: told my friends what was going on -- then lost most of them, read every blog and article I could on separating as a parent, co-dependence, and losing a marriage. I read self-help books, went to therapy, bargained with everything and everyone, pulled in, hid, cried, screamed, railed against how unfair it all was…
But there was something I had to figure out and
I suspect you’ve been feeling it too.
Let me tell you my story:
I help those going through or recovering from divorce. People like you, who want to put the pain in the past, stop the overwhelm and fear and have a great life (whatever that means to you).
It wasn’t until I was on my knees in my attorney’s office that I realized, I had to change how I was approaching this entire experience. It was time for me to take back my life and to figure out how to make my future one I wanted to live.
And just like that, I began to truly focus on my healing.
Have you found yourself even more lonely, feeling unsupported and isolated in your heartache or filled with really intense emotions despite leaning on friends and family?
Have you tried to build your case against them? Or are you dealing with guilt and resentments?
Are you ready to start to heal? To start to feel the optimism and hope that’s been gone for awhile…
What I’m asking is, are you ready to find out what's missing?
Acceptance from someone who knows...
When you feel you’re safe and accepted during this incredibly difficult time, you'll be able to know that your heart will mend. You’ll be able to pull yourself together again…
And when you do, amazing things will start to happen for you.
But you only get these kinds of results when you start to commit to yourself in a divorce, as much as or more, than you committed to saving your marriage.
A 12 - week class for determined souls ready to create a new life for themselves, their loved ones, and a happier future.
During this 3-month weekly group mentoring class you'll learn how to develop down-to-earth faith in yourself and your abilities. Make loads of hope for the kind of future you want even when you’ve forgotten how. Create steadfast courage to make it happen even when you’re unsure.
I'll teach you how to release the pain of your divorce to allow grace and gratitude to permeate your thoughts and actions.
And we'll hold each other accountable as you take steps to create the future, happily independent you.
Here's what's included in your 12-week doingDivorce School:
Weekly Classes Addressing common divorce issues.
Let’s be real, divorce affects all parts of our lives and gives us new things to master, so each week we'll discuss a new subject and answer questions specific to:
Live Classes taught by me, with personal coaching addressing your common concerns.
I'll be right there with you to help guide and inspire you - I've been where you are and understand what you're going through!
12 two-hour classes over 3-months running from April to July 2018.
It takes real time and consistent mentoring to shift from a story of your divorce that no longer works to a more empowering understanding that helps you get on with it.
A community of supportive individuals ready and willing to create a happy and healthy future.
You need a new group of like-minded people who understand where you're at and who’ll have your back.
Classes recorded and made available to all class participants.
I get it – life happens! Sometimes you can't make a live class. We'll have a private Slack thread for communication and questions, and all classes will be recorded so if you can't make a class, you'll have the information available when you're able to listen.
doingDivorce School will teach you how to:
It’s not awareness you’re lacking, it’s support, acceptance and an empowering perspective.
That’s why I created doingDivorce School.
doingDivorce™ School is for exhausted and overwhelmed divorcés like you, who recognize that to get through this experience and be at their best, they need to understand and change what's really going on.
As a twice-divorced overachiever, I learned the f-cking (I do curse!) hard way the importance of having an understanding of this modern-day rite of passage. I became aware that in order to feel my best, I needed to take a good look at how I was going about separating from my old life.
At the heart of doingDivorce™ School is the desire to empower you with the confidence you need to think through your divorce and feel happy and secure.
I know you probably feel a bit wiped out and fearful right now - you may even have made the conscious decision to pull in and hide from other people.
But here's the thing:
No matter what's going on during your separation and divorce, your life will continue and you're the only one who gets to create and live it.
As such, the simplest way to achieve the life you desire is to understand the difference between how you're dealing with things now and how you could deal with things better. (I'm proud of you, up until now, you've done the best you could with the tools and understanding you had!)
In contrast to other personal growth programs available, doingDivorce™ School is a personal mentorship program designed specifically to focus on the unique challenges that a divorcé faces.
You won't have to waste time explaining how complicated (and upsetting) your divorce is because I get it. I understand the challenges you face as you start to create your own life, and the fears that dominate your thoughts and feelings.
By the time our work together is done, you'll realize it's more important to put yourself and your well-being first than it is to focus on what they're doing and saying. You'll know how to respond instead of react and you'll understand that the future is yours, untethered from your past.
Wondering how my clients feel and what they have to say?
When you stop the overwhelm and feel better about yourself, everyone around you will start to have a more peaceful home, you’ll know you can get through this difficult time, and you’ll step out into the world with more confidence.
With doingDivorce School I'll show you how you can create the life that you want.
“After my divorce was finalized, and after years of undergoing extensive personal development work, I was no closer to the healthy, new relationship I wanted. But working with Laura moved me out of grief and depression, and into positive action. Laura is simply the best.”
"After my breakup, I was weak and lost. I tried to see a therapist, but her solution was ‘if you feel down, take these pills’. I wanted another solution. Laura helped me through the worst times of my life, because she understood exactly what I was going through.”
“I can’t remember a time in my life when I felt more alone. The emotional resilience I needed to start anew, after being married for over twenty years, was fortified by Laura’s compassionate and practical professional assistance.”
I've designed this school so you can get access to all the mentorship, guidance, and support you need in one place so you can avoid having to make any other high-ticket investments.
With doingDivorce™ School, you won't need to invest thousands in therapy or waste money going over and over your divorce story with your attorney.
You won't need to deal with frustrating advice and misunderstandings from your friends and family.
And you won't have to navigate the time-consuming and expensive mistakes that go along with figuring out how to deal with your divorce on your own.
All you need to do is to show up, be willing to implement the guidance I give you and you'll start to feel results right away.
"I've never had a female believe in me, think I'm worth basically anything, and accept me for me. You have really changed my life...and in turn D and S's. Thank you so very much for believing in me!!!"
"I just wanted to drop you a note to say how much I enjoyed yesterday's mentor coaching session. Thank you for building so much value through this process."
"You have absolutely clarified what I would like to get out of the coaching sessions. In fact, since speaking to you, I already feel a shift in my perspective on things.”
The fine print: With an intimate class, if we lose even one participant, it will be felt by all. However, if you find that after doing the homework for 2 weeks (you must turn in your assignments to me to show a good faith effort) and you're still not happy with the mentorship, I will give you back your first - month’s investment.
If you’d like to know more about how doingDivorce™ School could help you shift the way your days are currently going toward days you want to wake up for, I’d love to hear from you.
Don't bring the pain of your divorce into your future when you don’t have to.
Click the button below to complete a short, 5-minute application now. The next step is for us to get on the phone and see if this is a fit for you.
To guarantee that I provide the level of high-touch support required to help you create lasting change in your experience of divorce, I work with a limited number of students at any one time.
The only prep work is a short survey I ask you to complete so I have a comprehensive idea of what needs I can help you fill.
In order to feel connected to the class, you’ll begin to receive my daily and weekly Better Divorce inspiration and be put on my monthly Newsletter email lists. (You may get off any or all at any time.)
2 days before the course begins, I’ll send you access information to our private, closed Slack Channel so you can begin to know your classmates!
Every week I will send you the Zoom link for our class the day before the session.
Every week the recording link will be available for 14 days following.
How This Works:
We're going to get along really well if:
You’re probably not ready for doingDivorce™ School and my mentorship if:
When I was going through my second divorce after fifteen years of marriage, I found myself on my knees questioning why my life was falling apart again. I needed someone to help me think through different choices, look at options from different angles; someone assured me I was going to be OKAY!
When I looked around for support, I never felt understood or accepted - I felt that everyone was judging me, scolding me for my words and actions, angry with the emotional state I was in. I was unable to help them help me. There were times during these transitions when I experienced some of the loneliest moments of my entire life.
The only difference between those who can’t deal with the emotions and those who understand how to manage themselves as they move through their divorce, is understanding this modern day rite of passage.
I am determined to help those going through heartache understand what they’re going through and learn how to do it better. What I know for sure is that no one goes through divorce school when they're getting married!
May your separation be the amazing experience it’s meant to be and your rite of passage, life affirming. I do hope you’ll join me.
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