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You read every divorce article online and still feel overwhelmed, upset and unable to get your life moving in the right direction.

You want to have a peaceful home, a loving relationship, and be granted dignity and respect.

You want to remove the stigma of shame, step back out into the world feeling confident and be able to create the kind of life you know is yours.

But more than anything you want the fight in the past as you move on with your future.

It's frustrating to search for help only to remain stuck, especially when what you really need is solid advice.

After going through 3 divorces the past 40 + years, getting down and dirty on how to heal from the experience, and creating powerful perspectives to ground this modern day rite of passage, I know that right now:

  • Your fears and worries start the moment you open your eyes and start to check messages on your phone.
  • You look around for advice but no one understands you.
  • You're incredibly frustrated because you feel powerless about your future.
  • You're overwhelmed, taken off-guard by the onslaught of emotions and don't know how to handle the anger.
  • Even onto a calmer stage, you have no idea how to make yourself whole again.
  • You look in the mirror and don't recognize the man or woman you've had to become.

If this sounds like the story of your heartache, you’re in the right place.

I hate to say it, but this is the before story of practically every divorcée I've ever worked with. 


As a married and divorced young adult, and married and divorced mother myself, I get it, really I do.


You spent years keeping your relationship and your family together. 


You did whatever it took to keep them happy in the house, with the kids, in the bed whether you wanted sex or not (usually not but you did it anyway) whether you enjoyed cooking or worked a full-time job, and whether or not they even wanted kids to begin with. 


You've done it all!


But right now, you're being a victim with that self-righteousness and fear.          You're stuck in sadness, hostility. 


No wonder you’re having a tough time keeping your friendships intact, moving on after the divorce decree or finding the right partner for yourself.

I'm Laura and I work with those thinking about, going through or recovering from the experience of divorce like you

People who want to take back control of their thoughts, feelings and actions to find their way toward a happier life, fulfilling relationships and a peaceful home.

I'm not about to mince words - It sucks, it hurts, and it's usually unfair to go from being married to being single again. It is not for the faint of heart! 

You've probably tried to DIY: told all of your friends what's going on, pissed off your kids and family, read every article you could find online about separating, infidelity, and co-dependence.  


 Yet you've still found yourself more confused, lost and isolated in your heartache; filled with anger and fear, despite your best intentions.

Want to know what's missing?

Acceptance from someone who knows.


When you believe you're safe, and simply accepted for being human during this incredibly difficult time, you'll be able to calm down.


And when you calm down, amazing things will start to happen for you.

But you only get these kind of results when you start to invest in the belief that you're worthy of having a great future.

Just imagine....

  • gaining new tools to help you navigate the emotional roller coaster with compassion and dignity 
  • developing pragmatic skills to rebuild your relationships 
  • being able to see the antagonism and feel the anger without reacting and making mistakes 
  • having the confidence to manage the professionals as a mature thinking partner instead of an emotional wreck 
  • generously parenting your kids without needing them to choose sides 
  • trusting your gut and being your own big ole' bouncer 
  • softening your heart so a healthy lover can re-enter your life. 

Classes recorded and made available to all class participants. I get it! 


Sometimes you can't make a live class. We'll have a Slack thread for communication and questions, and all classes will be recorded so if you can't make a class, you'll have the information available when you're able to listen.

Live Classes taught by me with personal coaching addressing common concerns. 


I'll be right there for you to help guide and hopefully inspire you - I've been where you are and understand what you're going through!

Laura Bonarrigo's doingDivorce School:

Weekly Classes Addressing common divorce issues. 


Because divorce encompasses all aspects of your life and introduces new elements you have to master, each week we'll discuss a new subject and answer questions specific to: 

  • how to understand this modern day rite of passage 
  • ways to manage your emotions  
  • best practices for communication with your ex 
  • you’re in charge: how to deal with the professionals 
  • When should I date during and after divorce? 
  • sex
  • how to manage friends and family
  • single parenting skills and difficulties 
  • post-divorce thinking and emotions
  • what’s needed to overcome financial fears 
  • forgiveness 
  • how to create courage and independence

A community of supportive individuals ready and willing to create a happy and healthy future. 


You need a new group of like-minded people who understand where you're at and who will have your back.

A 12 - week class for determined souls ready to create a great life for themselves, their loved ones, and their future.



During this 3-month weekly group mentoring class you'll learn how to develop down-to-earth faith, realistic hope, and steadfast courage.


I'll teach you how to release the stigma and shame of divorce to allow grace and gratitude to permeate your thoughts and actions.


And I'll hold you accountable as you take steps to create the future independent you.

Introducing 

10 two-hour classes over 3-months running from end of January to early April, 2018. 


It takes real time and consistent mentoring to shift from the story of your divorce that does not work to a more empowering understanding of this modern day rite of passage that helps you get on with it.

Here's what's included in your 12 - week doingDivorce School:

  • manage your emotions so you can enjoy your day, your friendships, your work and your parenting
  • find your way back to your confident, engaging self
  • forgive yourself for the person you had to be
  • face future decisions like dating and relationships with hope and optimism
  • release your children to their own experience.

- EP

It’s not awareness you’re lacking in your pursuit of joy, just an empowering perspective.

"doingDivorce School was my last resort. I didn't know if it could help, but I had no more alternatives. From our first call, something definitely shifted for me. I learned how to take my power back."

doingDivorce School will teach you how to:

- SD

- KC

"Divorce School was the single best thing I've done for myself all year! Laura provided me and my classmates with the tools/skills we so desperately needed to heal from the pain of divorce. Thank you Laura!" 

"Please understand God led me to you! Whatever you believe spiritually, God is using you!! I'm not an angel by any means but you have reminded me of the inner power I possess! If you've ever questioned if you're on the right path, let me assure you--you are doing your life's work!!"

Hello again, I'm Laura, founder of doingDivorce School.

I created doingDivorce School for exhausted and overwhelmed divorcées like you, who recognize that to get through this experience and be at their best, they need to understand and change what's really going on. 


As a twice divorced overachiever, I learned the f-cking (I do curse!) hard way the importance of having an understanding of this modern day rite of passage. I became aware that in order to feel my best, I needed to take a good look at how I was going about separating from my old life. 


 At the heart of doingDivorce School is the desire to empower you with the confidence you need to think through your divorce and feel happy and secure. 


 I know you probably feel overwhelmed and fearful right now - you may even have made the conscious decision to pull in and hide from other people.

But here's the thing:

No matter what's going on during your separation and divorce, your life will continue and you're the only one who gets to create and live it.


The simplest way to achieve the life you desire is to understand the difference between how you're dealing with things now and how you have to deal with things better. (I'm proud of you, up until now, you've done the best you could given what you know and understand!)


In contrast to all the other personal programs available, doingDivorce School is a personal mentorship program designed specifically for the unique challenges that a divorcée faces.


You won't have to waste time trying to explain to me what's going on in your divorce because I already get it. I've been through 3 - as a child, as a young adult, and as a mother after 15 years of marriage. I understand the challenges you face as you try to create your own life and the fears that dominate your thoughts and feelings. 


By the time our work together is done, you'll realize that it's more important to put yourself and your well-being first than it is to focus on what they're doing and saying. You'll know how to respond instead of reacting and you'll understand that the future is yours, untethered from your past.

Wondering how my clients feel and what they have to say?

When you stop the overwhelm and feel better about yourself, you’ll start to have a more peaceful home, unstoppable confidence, and healthy relationships. 

- GK

- GS

- EC

“After my divorce was finalized, and after years of undergoing extensive personal development work, I was no closer to the healthy, new relationship I wanted. But working weekly with Laura moved me out of grief and depression, and into positive action. And I did attract a great new man, someone beyond my wildest dreams. With a great coach like Laura by your side, the effort required to find a better life can be a real joy. Laura is simply the best. And your life will improve exponentially as a result of working regularly with her.”

“I can’t remember a time in my life when I felt more alone. The emotional resilience I needed to start anew, after being married for over twenty years, was fortified by Laura’s compassionate and practical professional assistance.” 

- CW

"After my breakup, I was weak and lost. I tried to see a therapist, but her solution was ‘if you feel down, take these pills’. I didn’t want to numb myself up again with pills - I wanted another solution. A friend recommended that I talk to Laura. She helped me through the worst times of my life, because she understood exactly what I was going through. We’ve been working together for over a year and with her help, I’ve become a better, more confident, and overall mentally stronger person. No matter how big, strong, old or tough you are, there’s no shame in asking for help when you feel lost. I’d recommend her in a heartbeat anytime!” 

"I've never had a female believe in me, think I'm worth basically anything, and accept me for me. You have really changed my life...and in turn D and S's. Thank you so very much for believing in me!!! You'll never know what that means to me." 

10 two-hour classes over 3-months running from end of January to early April, 2018. 


It takes real time and consistent mentoring to shift from the story of your divorce that does not work to a more empowering understanding of this modern day rite of passage that helps you get on with it.

I've designed this mentorship so you can get access to all the guidance, information and support you need without having to make any other high-ticket investments. 


 With doingDivorce School, you won't need to invest thousands in therapy or continue to waste money going over and over your divorce story with your attorney.  


You won't need to juggle frustrating advice and misunderstandings from your friends and family. 


And you won't have to navigate the time-consuming and expensive mistakes that go along with figuring out how to deal with your divorce on your own. 


 All you need to do is to show up, be willing to implement the guidance I give you and you'll start to feel results right away.

Here’s a quick reminder of what’s included in your 12-week doingDivorce School:

Weekly Classes Addressing common divorce issues. 


Because divorce encompasses all aspects of your life and introduces new elements you have to master, each week we'll discuss a new subject and answer questions specific to: 

  • how to understand this modern day rite of passage 
  • ways to manage your emotions  
  • best practices for communication with your ex 
  • you’re in charge: how to deal with the professionals 
  • When should I date during and after divorce? 
  • sex
  • how to manage friends and family
  • single parenting skills and difficulties 
  • post-divorce thinking and emotions
  • what’s needed to overcome financial fears 
  • forgiveness 
  • how to create courage and independence

A community of supportive individuals ready and willing to create a happy and healthy future. 


You need a new group of like-minded people who understand where you're at and who will have your back.

Classes recorded and made available to all class participants. I get it! 


Sometimes you can't make a live class. We'll have a Slack thread for communication and questions, and all classes will be recorded so if you can't make a class, you'll have the information available when you're able to listen.

Live Classes taught by me with personal coaching addressing common concerns. 


I'll be right there for you to help guide and hopefully inspire you - I've been where you are and understand what you're going through!

With an intimate class, if we lose even one participant, it will be felt by all. However, if you find that after doing the homework for two weeks (you must turn in your journaling and questions to me to show a good faith effort) and you're still not happy with the mentorship, I will give you back your first - month’s investment.

If you’d like to have days you're excited to wake up for, I’d love to hear from you. By filling out an application you'll start to learn how doingDivorce School can help you shift the way your life is currently going.


Don’t look back a year from now and regret the choice you didn’t make today.


 Click the button below to complete a short, five-minute application now.

To guarantee that I provide the level of high-touch support required to help you create lasting transformation in your experience of divorce, I work with a limited number of students at any one time.

  • The only prep work is a short survey I ask you to complete so I have a comprehensive idea of what needs I can help you fill.
  • In order to feel connected to the class, you’ll begin to receive my daily emails and weekly Scarlet D™ Letters, and be put on my monthly Newsletter email lists. (You may get off any or all at any time.)
  • As soon as you register, I will send you access information to our private, closed Slack page so that you can get online and begin to know your classmates!
  • Every week I will send you the zoom link for our class the day before the session.  
  • Every week the recording link will be available for 14 days following.

We're going to get along really well if:  

  • You're going through separation and divorce (or trying to navigate the post-divorce world) and want a different, less-antagonistic, more life-affirming way to go about it.
  • You're courageous (or ready to become courageous), energetic (or ready to become healthy and create enthusiasm).
  • You're ready to grow, willing to participate and want to keep up with the class each week.
  • You believe that being inspired to grow through your rite of passage and able to create a future you can call your own is something you're interested in.

You’re probably not ready for doingDivorce School and my mentorship if:  


  • You’re stuck in anger and resentments, unwilling to consider another point of view. 
  • You’re intent upon getting emotional justice from your ex, the court, your attorney, your children, and your friends. 
  • You don’t want a happy future living your own life. 
  • You’re not willing to participate or are unwilling to offer your best during class and while doing your homework. 
  • You feel that Post Traumatic Divorce Disorder™ is worth suffering through for the rest of your life.

What if I don't agree with other people's opinions?

The only coach on the call is me! This class is for you to learn a new way of being as you go through divorce and/or heal from your breakup. Give me a chance to teach you and the other class participants something new.

F.A.Q

Will there be a lot of homework?

I've got so much going on right now… Homework is relative, especially if you’re a teacher or a mom! Saying that, I understand you don't have time for tons of work (this is extra curricular after all) however, you should expect some daily journaling, some homework assignments, and some accountability on the work I’m giving you. If you hate homework, you don’t have to do it. But then there’s no complaining that what I’m teaching you isn’t working… are we super clear? 

Shouldn't I be able to get through my divorce on my own?

To my (Do It Yourself) DIY-ers! Welcome to learning a new way of going about healing from breakups and divorce! You can… do it on your own. You can also give yourself the opportunity to go to Divorce School and save yourself time, money, and lots of wasted hours being sad. It’s always up to you. But, I always ask, “where was I when I needed me most!?!” Let's hack this together!

What happens if I can't make the class each week?

Ah, the beauty of technology! I will record the class each week and put the link on our private, group Slack thread. It will be live for two weeks and then… poof! So, you'll want to keep up.

I'm a wreck, I look horrible and feel worse, do I have to participate in each call?

I'm going to encourage you to show up no matter how you feel you look. It’s tough to look your best when your insides are hurting. I do not expect perfection. I welcome your authentic self. You’ll be able to turn off the video during calls at any time and watch me while you listen in.

What happens if I have to watch my children during class?

I'm a parent too! You’ll be able to turn off the video during calls at any time and watch me while you listen in and take care of your kids. (Multi-taskers are welcomed when necessary.) And remember, I will record the class each week and put the link on our private, group Slack thread.

What does a future, happy life look like?

I can't imagine being happy anymore. If you’re asking yourself this question, you belong in this class! I will teach you tools and help you develop skills to move from where you are today to the kind of life you really want (including simply imagining it). I’m asking you to believe in something you haven’t had in while. Of course you can’t imagine it right now!

I'm afraid to talk about myself and my divorce in a group setting…

I get it!! When I was on my knees in pain, it was tough to talk about it especially, when friends, family, and colleagues didn’t get what I was going through! The best thing about this class is that I’m in charge of the class and I get pain! I will give you many ways of asking questions until you feel comfortable being coached during the call. If you’re super shy, you’ll still be able to communicate via homework, email and surveys I’ll ask you to fill out.

When I was going through my second divorce after fifteen years of marriage, I found myself on my knees questioning why my life was falling apart again. I needed someone to help me think through different choices, look at options from different angles; someone who kept me calm and optimistic, gave me empathy when I was freaking out, assured me I was going to be OKAY!


When I looked around for support, I never felt understood or accepted - I felt that everyone was judging me, scolding me for my words and actions, angry with the emotional state I was in. I was unable to help them help me. There were times during these transitions when I experienced some of the loneliest moments of my entire life.


I am determined to help those going through heartache, breakups, separation, and divorce understand what they’re going through and learn how to do it better. What I know for sure is that no one goes through divorce school when they're getting married! I am passionate and committed to changing the way people view this deeply, personal and painful time.


The only difference between those who can’t deal with the emotional terrain and those who understand what to expect, and how to manage themselves as they move through their divorce, is understanding this modern day rite of passage.


I’d like you to grasp what’s up ahead, to see where you could shift, to have permission to grow and permission to change. I hope you experience doingDivorce® feeling heard and understood.


May your separation be the amazing experience it’s meant to be and your rite of passage, life affirming. I do hope you’ll join me.


Laura


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